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Are you still in contact with your childhood best mates?

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HM's thread & Alfafamily's comment got me thinking, who's still in contact with their best friends from school? Mrs Al is 33 and is still in contact with all hers, as all bar 2 of them still live round here, and the 2 who have moved away (London and Newcastle) still some back regularly. I grew up in a small town where everybody knows from an early age that they'll be gone as soon as they're adults, so it was no surprise to find that all my friends (and myself) disappeared at age 18 (mostly to Uni) never to return again. I'm now 37 and I reckon it must be 15 years since I recognised a single person of my age group when I go to visit the folks and have a walk around my hometown.

Of all my best mates at school there was DT (Buck Bundy on AO as it happens) who I've known since I was about 5 but haven't seen for some 17 or 18 years and only have the occasional contact through here. Then there is Hughes-ey who again I probably haven't seen for about 17 years, last I knew he was a copper with Thames valley police . Andy was the one I had most contact with since uni as he lived just over the Pennines in Leeds and we used to visit eachother regularly but I've now totally lost contact with him for no particular reason. We last spoke about 10 years ago and now I haven't a clue where he is or how on earth to contact him. Alistair was my best mate for years but he joined the Navy , he now lives in Yeovil and he's become more of a mate with my brother as Yeovil and Bristol aren't too far away. Lastly there's Gareth who is the only one who I'm in regular contact with despite the fact he's lived in the south east since leaving home, and in Dubai for the last 6 years. I'd say out of all of them he's the one who'll be my mate for life, whatever happens, although Alistair probably comes under that heading too.

So what about you guys & gals out there on AO, am I a sad old billy-no-mates or is my story quite normal? Are we still in contact with our school friends like we probably always thought we would be when we were kids?
 
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At 29 I am still in touch with a lot of my school friends on a regular basis. Just spent today at a BBQ round a friends as celebration for their kiddies 1st birthday.

Next weekend a day of drinking, curry and rock band round another friend from schools place :lol:
 

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I chat to two girls I went to high school with on face book.. But they weren't really friends..

All the friends I had, got divided in my first divorce.. He got the friends I got the child.. I got the better half of that deal I think (in the long run)
 

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it's frightening how divorce rips apart friends as well. the first divorce in our circle of friends happened last year, and it's become quite difficult for me to stay in touch with richard as he lives in newcastle and is persona non grata amongst mrs al's mates for doing the dirty on their friend sarah. the fact that i was mates with rich before sarah even met him is lost on them, so daft as it sounds i have to stay in contact with him on the quiet

i often wonder about this as statistically i will probably end up divorced at some point, and most people i know round here i know through mrs al so i have no doubts where their loyalties will lie when push comes to shove
 

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it's frightening how divorce rips apart friends as well. the first divorce in our circle of friends happened last year, and it's become quite difficult for me to stay in touch with richard as he lives in newcastle and is persona non grata amongst mrs al's mates for doing the dirty on their friend sarah. the fact that i was mates with rich before sarah even met him is lost on them, so daft as it sounds i have to stay in contact with him on the quiet

i often wonder about this as statistically i will probably end up divorced at some point, and most people i know round here i know through mrs al so i have no doubts where their loyalties will lie when push comes to shove
I think what annoyed me the most about it all was that 2 of the women who took his side where my best friends since I was about 10/11, and I'd been there for them through all the bad things that most people would have walked away for..
Yet they took the side of a man who they had known for about 2 years, and even knowing all the things he'd done wrong still stay in touch with him.
I bumped into one of them last Christmas, she tried to say hello... I just looked at her, shook my head, and walked off. No second chances with me!

Am I still annoyed... Damn right I am!
I expect my friends to be as loyal as I am!
 

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i am still best buds with my 2 best mates from school.

obviously as you get older time is hard to make for socialising etc, but we do what we can.

recently 2 of us were joint best men for the others weddding :)
 

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Do a little but no where near as much as I should and can't even think of a reason. Think in a lot of ways I'm not the most sociable of people really.
 
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I voted no because I lost touch with my school friends when I went to uni. But recently a few have made contact through Friends Reunited. I shan't be rushing to rekindle any friendships though. I'm a different person now to who I was then :D
 
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i often wonder about this as statistically i will probably end up divorced at some point, and most people i know round here i know through mrs al so i have no doubts where their loyalties will lie when push comes to shove

Al, I don't mean to sound :tut: but I hope you didn't mean to phrase this as if divorce is an inevitability for you :(
 

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When I left school I worked a long way away from home, and lost touch almost straight away with my school friends, I didn't socialise at work as it was too far to go back for a night out, Slowly you make new friends, and then I met a lovely Welsh girl, moved up here, and lost the next set of friends I had made, I tried to keep in touch, but as usual it just kinda fizzled out, having kids makes a difference too, people with kids stick together, and if you do or don't have them then divisions are formed, I have one or two really good friends, lots of "pals" and some friends of the better half. But no one from school:eek:
 
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Still go out bike riding with the lads I went to school with. My longest serving mate is going to be best man at my wedding (absolutely dreading the stories he will no doubt drag up)
After leaving school and mates ending up in different unis and different towns and cities, then uni mates ending up all over the country it's not easy to keep in contact with them all. Still meet up with the good mates from uni from all over the country and keep in regular contact with them on the phone and email. The ones I'm still in contact with and make the effort to drive across the country to meet up with are true mates for life

All the friends I had, got divided in my first divorce.. He got the friends I got the child.. I got the better half of that deal I think (in the long run)
it's frightening how divorce rips apart friends
Suppose that shows who your true friends are, friends aren't tied to either of you by marriage vows.
 

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No for me but MrsJim's best mate is still her best mate from primary school and as a result, her husband is now my best mate.
 

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I regularly see my two best mates from secondary school; in fact, I was out with one of them last night.
 
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I think it makes a difference if you still live in the town you grew up in.

I grew up in Solihull, went to uni in Worcester and moved to Oldham before ending up here.

Most of my old mates won't have a scooby where I am now :lol:
 

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hell no, i couldn't stand the w*nkers i went to school with, biggest bunch of morons you're every likely to meet, couldn't wait to get out of the place, & even if i still lived in Dublin i'd not be in touch with any of them!
 

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Low level schooling through the forties and fifties, in an old Victorian part of Luton, didn't really lend itself to long lasting school friendships in my case.

Most were just 'chuffed' to leave at fifteen, and get out there doing pretty mundane jobs, with a view to forgetting cold classrooms, outside toilets, and the stench of sawdust mixed with Jeyes fluid.:(: That's how the school caretakers cleaned the classroom floor, in those days. (Sounds a bit Monty Pythonish', don't it?:D )

Into the you know where at sixteen, but the long lasting friendships all started in BAOR, back in the sixties. Loads of good websites, the BAOR one, MoD re-united, Tankies on the Net, Etc. Etc. But re-unions are the best get togethers, for me personally.:):
 

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Still play rugby with a few old school mates.. :D
 

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I dont have contact with any of my old school mates.

I only really miss one of them, and will deffo make the effort to contact him soon (havent spoken in bout 6 years).
 
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Nope, no contact with schoolmates anymore. Probably because i) I joined in the third term of the first year (yes, I'm that old - it was 'first year' in my time!) ii) I didn't go to the same primary schools as anyone (different country) iii) I didn't go on to university iv) I don't have kids so none of that mumsy contact v) the friends I did have at school were 'fairweather' friends.
I'm not a billy (or jilly!) no-mates, but my closest pals are ones I've met as an adult.
 

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My strongest friend group consists of people I went to school with:

There's me and my wife, who started going out in sixth form
Another married couple, Joe and Vicki, who started going out in sixth form.
Chris, who was in sixth form with us, and is now going out with Vickis younger sister.
Plus Mike and James, who were both at school with us too.
 
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