ok, found it, can't believe i didn't spot the brake/clutch fluid point before!
I think i've fixed it, tomorrow morning will be THE test though, basically it seems like it was a combination of two things...
a) a clutch fluid level that i'm ashamed to say was very low
b) the car floor mat seemed to sit right under the clutch pedal, stopping its travel too early! so whilst i pressed the clutch to the floor, this was the mat, & not to the floor. I've not seen mats as thick as these, and even at its furthest point away from the pedals (so its as close to the seat as possible), it still got in the way of the clutch! So the mat is gone & i took her for a spin & the gears flowed!
as i say tomorrow on a cold morning will be the test to see if its truly fixed, or if its just that the car wasn't cold when i "fixed" it!
146, 147, 156, 164, 166, GTV - This is becoming a bit obsessive!