As an orphan, I rather wish my aged parents were still alive even though it used to be a 230ml drive to see them. You do what you can, that's all you can do. No need to get angry about it. As with kids, give them a choice: either you can come with us, which would be nice, or you can stay indoors and rot by yourselves, which wouldn't. Now which would you like to do?
All of us get inflexible and stuck in our ways as we get older and the world leaves us behind. It's a sort of separation by mutual agreement. You should meet my mother in law who thinks it's perfectly reasonable to expect 'someone' to drive an hour and a half each way through London traffic to take her to church which is just round the corner from her house.
The trouble is, it sort of is, from her PoV. Her mobility is lousy now, through not having used it when she could. She gets afraid easily, because she's never been especially independent. She also lives in a **** flat in a **** area, but it's where she grew up and it's home.
Just the way she talks shows an amazing insensitivity to the needs of others, because she is so preoccupied with her own. She forgets completely that people have stuff like working stupid long hours to deal with. She just doesn't listen, and in many ways behaves like a petulant kid trying to get her own way. But behind all that, she is afraid, and rather lonely, and when we dig our heels in and get her out of the bloody house, she actually loves it and forgets she's 84.