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Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

Ok, been together with my girlfriend for 11 months, she moved in with me back in February.

Lately, we seem to be arguing more and more over completely stupid things. Its something which simply wouldn't have happened before. (Moving a Sofa, the living room bay window needing repair etc etc)

What could cause this? Why have we suddenly started clashing so much? A perfectly good weekend has been ruined by this and it is really bugging both of us.

God damn it.
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Sounds like you should get married
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Sounds like you should get married


But seriously.......Buying a house is location,location,location.

Relationships are compromise,compromise,compromise.

As long as you both do it you'll be fine.
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Sad, but it's simply that the honeymoon period is over. Now you are finding out if you are compatible enough to actually live together.

Still, good that you aren't married. As the saying goes: "Marry in haste, repent at leisure".
 
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

Its noting to get too worked up about imo.

As mudhut said its just getting over that initial honeymoon period. I went through it with my other half, really heated arguments over nothing. Some of them lasted for days. But if you both keep your sensible hats on, it'll pass (hopefully) and you can get on with the next stage!

Besides, sometimes the making up is worth the fight
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

Me and my girlfriend hardly ever disagree on anything. Maybe she has just accepted I am right on everything?
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It is quite common mate....remember when you were around 12 - 16 and you started to push the boundaries on what you could get away - seeing when your parents would hit the roof...?

The same is happening - same happened with me and my partner....

Simple thing is to find time out, where you can discuss things that irritate you both and work through them. Also the odd night out and dinner goes along way...

Plus always remember you may be right but a women will never be wrong....these are the wisest words I can ever pass on....


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Just say "yes dear" a lot.
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I'm in the same boat dude, after 2 and half years, and now plenty of arguements........Still more good times than bad!!
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Sounds like you should get married
What he said
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

Who said life was going to be a bed of roses? You are going through the first key seriously testing period of your relationship. It's nature's way of trying to make you both askt the tough questions that don't come up when it's all hot and sweet.

If either of you feel like it isn't worth the aggravation you should walk now or at least take a break. If it seen as still mostly good, then stick at it, you could be paired for life.
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

Ok. Following on, things have been resolved, we realized we where being daft.

Sorry for the rant guys but all this is totally new to me, i'm 23, this is my first relationship thats got anywhere near to this point and so it is all a bit confusing!

Just hope this doesn't recur too much.....
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

Yup sounds like summat real silly to get upset about but hey we all do it from time to time !!

Glad you seem to have sorted it out !!
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These male, female, relationships,can be difficult big time :

Revision if youthfully able? Join The Foreign Legion,(whatever they get to do,) visit the Flesh Pots periodically, relax sometimes with the camels and flies?
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

In answer to the question posed in the thread title - I don't see how you and your partner hand propelling a boat over dumb people will help matters.

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Oh! Dear! What a thread.:
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hmmmmm
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

you're at that critical stage in your relationship where roles are been set that will dictate how the rest of relationship goes. i went through the same thing in the first year of my relationship. we're still together 5 years later and the arguments have stopped. why? i gave up fighting and let her think she's the boss
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In answer to the question posed in the thread title - I don't see how you and your partner hand propelling a boat over dumb people will help matters.
Smartarse.
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In answer to the question posed in the thread title - I don't see how you and your partner hand propelling a boat over dumb people will help matters.

Paul.


I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. We have been going through the arguing phase for....hmm let me see.....2 years and 11 months! You just kinda get used to it. Most of the time it can be down to jealousy of something or just total invasion of your space. Everyone has to have their own time to themselves. If not you end up in jail for murder.
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Re: Rowing with the other half over stupid things...

As she's walking down the church towards you, she will be trying to remember what to do next..and she will be saying to herself the following words...

Aisle, Altar, Hymn..

All i can say is that after 25 years together (and i'd never managed more than three years with anyone before) Mrs AlfaLincs occasionally goes critical on me, to a point where saying something flippant (which is my usual reaction) is NOT the thing to do unless you wish to see a mushroom cloud over Lincolnshire. I'd guess there have been four occasions when either of us would have happily walked out, but in general we are a pretty good team, and still love each other.

Don't ever pretend its anything other than bloody hard work though.

If someone has moved in you have to eventually confront the following.

1) Is marriage what you BOTH want (or not want as the case might be). What in fact do you both want?????
2) Do you want kids..and have you talked about it..(there is never a 'right' time to have kids.if we all waited for that it would never happen)
3) Who is going to earn the dosh..particularly in the event of kids.

Its scary stuff, but its best to know you are both communicating on the same channel. I've seen too many relationships go belly up for lack of talking things through early enough.

Hope she is the right one for you

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