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Is this life?

Well, here it is.

How can this go on like this? I got up at 4.30am this morning to catch a flight back to London from Spain. Got straight into the office, get out at 10.40pm. Everday is a 14 hour day, if I don't spend the weekend on a plane, I am trying to get my laundry done.

I haven't seen my wife and kids for two weeks and I am not going to see them for another week. And a client is now thinking I am such a good guy I should stick around another week, at which point I am gonna go mental.

I don't want to complain too much, but this is the rant room, and I am ranting thankyouverymuch.

I hope to get 1 week with the family when I go back, then back to work in various places. Need to be in 3 different countries at the same time, at least, to keep up with the schedule. Guess what, sleeping time has become a luxury.

We are going to move in a couple of months and I don't know how as my wife can't cope to do that on her own with three kids under the age of 5.

And this has to go on for a few more months? Of course, the job pays the bills, but this has become much.

Then, I finally get to my hotel at 11pm tonight, after walking for 20 minutes in the rain with my luggage and guess what, they give me a room that had not been made up: dirty sheets, used shampoo bottles and garbage around the room.

Great.

I then move to another room and some other guy has been given the same room. So, we spend some more time figuring that out.

Come on people, give me a break. Give me a break.


Rant over

-BigFoot


PS: I would appreciate if people would avoid taking pot shots at what I've written above. It was not easy to get it off my chest.

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Sorry to hear your pain BF

Hope you can get it all sorted and still get some sleep.
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relax maurizio, it's all part of the challenge.... a crap hotel room always happens when you least need it - just like it always rains when you really wish for once it would be dry. moving locations is always stressful, although i would imagine moving across the globe is probably even more so! but these things were sent to try us, and sure as day follows night the next day will always be easier...

a work/life balance is always hard to achieve particularly when you work for a major global corporation, and particularly if you live in a long-hours culture (basically uk, japan, usa and nowhere else).

my advice on how to deal with it? pretty useless to you really - i was gonna suggest nipping down to the hotel bar for a couple of sly beers

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Heavy not seeing the kids and family. Considered changing jobs or just doing less hours? I wouldn't do it these days, when I was 20 didn't matter doing every hour under the sun, I now get paid about 4x what I did then and do a normal days work and I'm far more relaxed and happy than I ever was. I'll never be mega rich working with this attitude but then I treat work as nothing more than a job and a means to pay for what I want to do in my spare time and not a reason for living. I have considered really going for it for 5 years pay all the mortgage off, get some money in the bank and then take it easy but well I should have done that 5 years ago before I had a family. You've obviously got your reasons for doing it, just hope you can stick it out for a while longer.

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How come you're having to do all these long hours - aren't you covered by the European working-time directive?
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How come you're having to do all these long hours - aren't you covered by the European working-time directive?
Nope, there is a "voluntary" opt out in the contract.
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Sounds nasty, sorry to hear. I thought I had it bad working shifts.

Maybe a change of job could be due?
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And you know what else?

Now my oldest is 5, I can take him to go-karting but given my schedule I won't be able to, although his uncle will stand in for me. Great that he gets to go, but real hard not to be able to be there on this occasion which I was really looking forward to.

Anyway, as I said, rant over...
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That is so cr4p BF. I'm sorry to hear that you have so little time for anything. I think there comes a point when you have to make the decision 'work to live' or 'live to work'. I didn't want to burn out early so took a conscious decision to opt for the former after listening to my long suffering wife and I don't regret it for a minute. If the company really value you they should respect your need for more time outside work. If they don't, you're just another number, so move on to somewhere that does!
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Jeez BF. It's that kind of **** that you can do without. I can offer nothing but my support and my hope that it sorts itself out. Good luck mate.
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If the company really value you they should respect your need for more time outside work. If they don't, you're just another number, so move on to somewhere that does!



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Blimey...sounds terrible

Can't you have a word with your Employer - even if its just to have some time to help your wife move???
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BF it sounds like your 'employers' are extracting the urine a little here. Surely no-one should have to put up with such a heavy workload? Are you being recompensed in anyway - not that this will make up for lack of time with family?

You are going to burn yourself out doing all this mate - take stock and I know I have suggested changing jobs before but I think you struggled to find something else


As Al said things can only get better, honest they can

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Sorry to hear all this BF, but you are a good guy

Try not to let it grind you down too much. I know where it leads and you don't want to go there I know it's hard but you need to chill as soon as you can and put it out of your head.
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Sorry to hear this BF.: When I look back, I can remember pressurised brain spinning periods,that really got to me! Nothing like the 'High Rolling' commercial world you have to contend with,but difficult enough, for the likes of yours truly.Spent a bit of it away from wife and family,which on looking back, was not a good period,but eventually fate or whatever intervened, and it all came to an end.:

Suppose I can afford to be complacent about it now, just get it in the neck from the wife who keeps reminding me with that old slogan to slow me down a bit,as even now I feel I have to keep 'doing productive' things. Not much in the way of consolation to you, but she reminds me, Retirement is when you stop living at work,and start working at living. It arrived quicker than I ever imagined it would, in the meantime, soldier on, don't let them grind you down,try to keep as cheerful as possible. Simple stuff, from a simple chap, Best of Luck Mate.:

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Sorry to hear you're having difficulties BF, can't really add to the advice above, just think about the positives, switch off when you can and make sure your employers aren't taking you for granted.

Do not let them cancel your trips back home, it's the least you deserve, considering how hard you are working at the moment

and use AO to get anything off your chest when you need to.

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It least you can get it off your chest Big guy,
You can always count on our support so rant as often as you like.
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What Brickman said, we are here for you as you have always been for us
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Dude,

It's true this situation sucks, but it's the 21st century:
We aren't "slaves".


Some jobs require a bit of this from time-to-time
(and it's obviously way easier if you've no family.)
But you need to make sure that it's not something
that will become the norm for you. The only way to verify
this, and/or change anything is to chat with the management.


Anyway you know where we are if you need more "rants".


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maurizio, I gave you fair warning my friend. reading your post took me right back to 1991-1994. You my friend are heading for a breakdown and if you don't take steps to avoid it soon there will be nothing you can do about it except watch it happen from the position of being a jibbering wreck.

See a doctor as soon as possible and get some time off to catch your breath and take stock. You don't have a life at present you have an existence.

There is an alternative out there. You just hjave to get off that express train and look for it.

Took me 10 years to recover. don't let it happen to you
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Bottom line Maurizio is whether both you and Mrs M think it is worth it.

If so - stick with it - you are obviously both working towards a point in your lives where you will find that the sacrifices you have both made are worth it.

If not - stop doing it now - your life together is far more important.

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What Will and PaulR said - good, simple, concise advice. Take care of yourself and your family.
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Thanks guys.

Really, really appreciate the good advice and encouraging words. I truly hope this madness will end soon and there are signs that it will.

And thanks for listening
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maurizio, your schedule only makes any sense if you have a long term plan. If you and the missus agree that the money is worth it for the next five years to secure a robust (and I mean a robust) future, then you have to accept it.

But if there's no long term goal - and you're missing the formative years that you will never, ever, get back with your children - then jack it in boss.

Your kids couldn't give two shi5s what you earn. They couldn't give two shi5s what car dad has. They only care that dad was there on sports day. They only care that dad was there to see them the day they scored a goal, or the day they completed a circuit skating unaided, riding a bike or roller blading.

Kids - especially young boys - need affirmation from their dads and positive male role models. Not toys or gifts and broken promises from a remote dad. Even the grandest palazzo can be barren when dad's not home.

Ditch the shi5e hours for the soul-less corporation. Come home, make some pasta, and relish the years your bambinos are under your wing. That's more precious than any dollar you'll ever earn.

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You know, it's not even the money, I sort of got myself in this job and that's the only thing I know how to do.

Hard to switch out of it with a big and young family.

But thanks for the nice words g
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