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cheating g/f , b/f would you face them?

came accross a common friend who told me things about my g/f and it did take him few drinks and fags and almost drugs to tell me what was going on (not him involved) top it all up i found some chat logs confirming everything. i couldnt tell you how i feel. would you confront them?
not much of a rant but i need to get my head straight. not on a good day at all
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Sorry to hear this mate,hope everything works out ok.
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Re: cheating g/f , b/f would you face them?

Sometimes mates, no matter how good their intentions, can get it wrong.

Unless you are really really really sure something is amiss then I wouldn't go in guns blazing.

Try and have a calm chat with your g/f - tell her what you have heard and that you would like to let her speak, as it of course could be a load of old bull.

You'll know pretty quick if she is telling porkies or not.

But give her the benefit of the doubt as otherwise trust is broken and that is hard to fix!

Good luck.

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Bad news dude, but it's summer:


Good time to go shopping for a new one.
 
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cheers, i actually know for a fact now. i am a calm, placid bloke just expect trust but hey ho, sh*t happens.
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Oh thats an arse.

If she has a fit sister, then go looking. :P

Otherwise, Nev is right! Release the Austin Powers in you!
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lol, at least i got my car left
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lol, at least i got my car left
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nope no pulling, am waiting to see how much my car will go for n ebay then its the gta. my cars proved to be more faithful
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sorry to hear about this , not a nice way to find out.
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Print out the chat logs and leave them on the side...then see what happens.

I would definitely confront but in a calm controlled way...keeping the upper hand a not losing it.

Have you decided what outcome you want....dump or work it out? Without that you could easily end up confused.

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Re: cheating g/f , b/f would you face them?

as has been said before, it depends whether you really want to save the relationship ?

a strong relationship can survive infidelity, but both partners have to work hard.
in my experience, it does destroy trust, and nothing will rip a relationship apart faster than suspicion and jealousy.

it also depends on your definition of "confront" if you go in all riled up, well, there's only one way that's gonna end !
it may be worth sitting down & talking to your partner, even if this relationship is beyond salvation, you may learn vital lessons to take into the next one.
my practice wife had a string of affairs, some of which she was caught red handed, but she always denied them. be prepared for the fact your partner may do the same, it then boils down to who you trust more, your mate, or your girl.

another piece of advice i can give you, if you do decide to carry on, and you feel the trust is gone, end the relationship. it's gonna happen anyway, you're just delaying the inevitable. also, the longer you carry on in that situation, the more chance there is that the mistrust will carry over with you, and could ruin another relationship.
during my last relationship. i realised that my practice wife's infidelity had left deeper scars than i thought !

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I think Wrinx and Quattrothedog have given very good advise. Good luck with whatever happens
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Advice, now there's a multi headed word.Ask yourself could you ever trust your partner again,the first answer in your head and i mean the first answer is the right one, hope it all works out.
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shag her mum, that'll teach her
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take it easy sk8funk
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Hope everything works out mate,as others have said,if the trust has gone you may aswell get out of it.Just remember not all people are like that and i hope you get over it all quickly




lol ive said to my wife if i caught her cheating id IMAC her hair!!!The look of horror on her face lol,i wont say what she said she'd do to me but blunt scissors were mentioned!
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Re: cheating g/f , b/f would you face them?

Sorry to hear that dude !!

As Wrinx said print out the chat logs but personally I'd hand them to her with the words 'What do you think to this/these?' to see her reaction !!

Been in this situation a couple of times myself and have walked without looking back !! I've always been happier for doing it !!
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If you have definitive proof, pack her bags for her. You'll never trust her again IMHO. I had a relationship where I suspected and suspected but kept hanging on and it drove me mad.
I eventually walked and was then told by a mutal friend that my suspicions were right all along
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cheers all for the comments, however i have received a sorry "text message" the worst way of communication in my book. no its a split, i can never trust someone who lies in a very serious way. its me, my car and freedom for now til next time. i feel better today coz i never shouted, asked why...etc i feel allways good when am the good one and even better when i ignore someone trying to explain as one mistake and its deffo over with me.
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Get out there and party dude !!

The lurve of your life will turn up at the most unexpected time !!
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Good on ya m8 go have some fun
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Re: cheating g/f , b/f would you face them?

You totally did the right thing..

You could pull me in that GTA (not gay)

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Sorry to hear that mate - it's $h1te when it happens.
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