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Not Happy Parents Who Seem To Despise Their Children

I was in a local supermarket this morning when I heard a rather worrying, but increasingly common exchange of words between a mother and her eight(ish) year old daughter.

Daughter: "Mam, can we get some chocolate biscuits?"

Mother: "No we fookin can't! You really do ask some stupid fookin questions don't you?"

Daughter: "No"

Mother: "Yes you fookin do!"

What chance do kids have with parents like that?

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absolutely disgracefull....
 
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You should have to get a licence to have kids.

 
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Not exactly a brilliant role model for them is she? Poor kids
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Sadly there is a lot of this sort of 'parenting' about. Worst I have ever seen was a mam and dad sitting near 'the Moument' in Newcastle a few years back, actually encouraging their 3-4 year old to swear (Go on son, say f_ck.) then howling with laughter every time he said it- made my heart sink
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I've said it before...some kids are doomed form the moment they pop into this world

...and then they are blamed when things go wrong later in life

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the worst is when your in a queue in a shop an the kid in front asks you for something or some other very minor intrusion on you, an teh parent batters teh ****e outta them shoutin leave that man alone etc. i always feel really bad esp case i would have probably encouraged makin faces or summant to the kid if tehy looked bored
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Re: Parents Who Seem To Despise Their Children

There are people in the world who would love to have a child and can't, and to hear stories like this makes my blood boil.

What sort of a start is this to give a child? What amount of self worth will they have as they are growing up? What values and believes will they have formed to pass on to their own children in years to come?

It makes me sad and mad at the same time.



I am thankful every day that my parents are amazing and give me no end of the most important thing to give a child, and thats time and patience.
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stories like that are heart-wrenchingly sad, and all too common.

Said it before...responsible parenting starts before you have kids.

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Do other countries have similar problems, or, is this a purely British problem? I think there's a lot to be said for a comment made on an other thread about kids being a 'lifestyle choice'. I think in many cases, sadly, it's true. Chaves all over having kids because they don't understand contraception, or, because they want a 'Mini Me' to ensure the survival of the thickest.

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In France I noticed that the a lot of French let their
kids run amok and don't instil any restraint
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... until the parents themselves get ****ed off,
then they physically lay into the kids.

 
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I'm sure parenting like a bully is a world wide phenomenon, education is key but how do we help? These kids have 5 years of this before they get to school and become bullies there, awful sad situation.
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In France I noticed that the a lot of French let their
kids run amok and don't instil any restraint
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... until the parents themselves get ****ed off,
then they physically lay into the kids.

We have French nieghbours and yes they do allow the kids to run around doing whatever. But, to be fair, when they do cause any problems they're parents usually send them to the door to apologise. Many other local kids aren't taught such respect.
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I'm sure parenting like a bully is a world wide phenomenon, education is key but how do we help? These kids have 5 years of this before they get to school and become bullies there, awful sad situation.
That's depressing. I was hoping this was just a British cultural problem and the world wasn't just going to ****.
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The world is not going to ****. It was always thus. We just have more tools to talk about it and agonise over it now.


..........knowing that doesn't make things any better though.
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Sadly there is a lot of this sort of 'parenting' about. Worst I have ever seen was a mam and dad sitting near 'the Moument' in Newcastle a few years back, actually encouraging their 3-4 year old to swear (Go on son, say f_ck.) then howling with laughter every time he said it- made my heart sink
I had great fun trying to teach my 2 year old neice to say "arse!".

It was funny when she did.. but I think even at that age she sussed out that for it to be so amusing meant that it was slightly naughty. She refused to say it after that!

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Sad but true I'm afraid but it has probably always gone on - some people have children and then realise that they just can't cope
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2 words and 2 words only that will sort out the mess that the asbo collecting youth of today create.

National Service.

This country has gone soft. We need discipline in the schools. Parenting skills to be part of the national curriculum. Make it a criminal offence to be a bad parent with stiffer sentencing. National service for kids that leave school with next to no qualifications who would otherwise just drain the benefit system. Jeez, I could probably go on all day.
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I just think parents that talk like that to their kids are just plain scum,theres no excuse for it,im sure other parents would agree that sometimes kids can really wind you up,i know my 2 boys aged 4 and 7 do,and sometimes come very close to swearing but dont.The thing that really gets me is when they are at school with the kids of these parents and pick up the swear words from them!
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beardo, I too have thought National Service would not be such a bad thing. If they could incorporate doing useful things like filling in potholes on our crumbling road network, so much the better.
 
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I was thinking more like cannon fodder.
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...or melt them down and use them to fill the holes...
 
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I've said it before...some kids are doomed form the moment they pop into this world
...and then they are blamed when things go wrong later in life
Unfortunately 'Big W' is sooooo right !!

I did witness a guy talking to his kid like that in a local supermarket once... I took the opportunity when his kid had wandered off to tell him what a cnut I thought he was !!

And yes I did use that word .... amazingly enough he was lost for a witty retort !!

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Unfortunately 'Big W' is sooooo right !!

I did witness a guy talking to his kid like that in a local supermarket once... I took the opportunity when his kid had wandered off to tell him what a cnut I thought he was !!

And yes I did use that word .... amazingly enough he was lost for a witty retort !!

amazed you didn't get smacked in the face.........

..............oh no he was a really bully only picked on children
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amazed you didn't get smacked in the face
I'm told I'm quite scary when I'm angry Patster !!
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