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View Poll Results: Do you do it?
Yes definitely, wouldnt hesitate 4 18.18%
No, not even if my life depended on it 13 59.09%
Other (is there a third?) 5 22.73%
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Hmmm would you do it?

Imagine:

You are in a relationship, you could be married, living together, seeing each other on the weekends, whatever your perfect relationship scenario is.
You are offered an affair by a third party which is 100% guaranteed NOT to be found out about, you will not fall in love with this person and they will not fall in love with you, nobody will get pregnant or contract any diseases, it will just happen and that is it. It might happen once and never again, it might happen every day for the rest of your life but it will not ever affect your other relationship at all.

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Re: would you do it?

Why isn't this a public poll

You do realise that you have taken away most of the interest for some people that do this, don't you. What's left is lust, sexual desire etc from the looks of it with no danger. Nevertheless, betrayal is something I wouldn't stand for and likewise with never succumb to.

Unless it was Courtney of course <-- surprisingly I don't even like making that pun here

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Why isn't this a public poll


On a more serious note, women always finds out sooner or later that the guy is cheating. Whether guys is that perceptive is another story
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Re: would you do it?

d'oh i thought i had ticked the public poll box
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d'oh i thought i had ticked the public poll box
Edited my first post a bit - but were you hoping to make it public

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Re: would you do it?

yep, wanted everybody to see how naughty/or not everybody else is
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yep, wanted everybody to see how naughty/or not everybody else is
Shame it isn't, as it would have been insightful Now we need people to be brave and honest in their posts. Starting with the Poll creator I noticed someone has already opted other, with no explanation Explain yourself, who ever you are

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Re: would you do it?

maybe one of the nice and sexy and gorgeous moderators will be able to change it for me so its public
was that enough creeping?
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maybe one of the nice and sexy and gorgeous moderators will be able to change it for me so its public
was that enough creeping?
Can't be done I think Can you imagine the danger of that

Please re-read my earlier post and answer the flippin question yourself

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Re: would you do it?

Nope Kurz, it's your screen that's to small... Oh bloody heck, do I really have to check it in the Modern skin then?

On another note, lets see Kurz, So far three people have voted, you know what you voted, I bet Rossbirds BF reads her threads on here from time to time, let's see; who might have voted differently than the rest
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Nope Kurz, it's your screen that's to small...
Well Dude , even maximised on my widescreen laptop your signature squashes your avatar area

... maybe people won't vote on option 1 now, because Rosbird has scared them by implying it's going to be made public

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Re: would you do it?

in Toronto Spider's thread about dog-tags there was a link with questions. One of the questions was to select 5 words from a list you would use to describe yourself. One that i selected was 'faithful', and i was curious to know how many other people would use the same word. Just thought id let you know why i made this poll

Oh yeah and i said 'no' cos i think if you cant afford someone the respect of being faithful to them, then they deserve better than you
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Re: would you do it?

Hmmm, not wanting to complicate this further, but I just read the no answer again. If that was to be taken literally "not even if my life depended on it", I think most partners would grant an exception in this case However, afterwards you'd be faced with scenario's like that depicted in films such as Indecent Proposal

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Re: would you do it?

Answering the question: no. Why? That's quite simple, really...

1st, because if you're in a relationship you wont think about a new relation.
2nd, if you think about a new relation, then, something is wrong with the first relation.
3rd, and if you think about that offer, then you should just quite your presente relation, settle down for a while and think what you really want for you and... for the other part! You'll never know if the offer is 100% guaranteed. As we know it has the same kind of guaranty as the first relation.

And finally... what's a relation with everything 100% guaranteed but, with no feelings?

No, I don't want it.

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Imagine:

You are in a relationship, you could be married, living together, seeing each other on the weekends, whatever your perfect relationship scenario is.
You are offered an affair by a third party which is 100% guaranteed NOT to be found out about, you will not fall in love with this person and they will not fall in love with you, nobody will get pregnant or contract any diseases, it will just happen and that is it. It might happen once and never again, it might happen every day for the rest of your life but it will not ever affect your other relationship at all.

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Re: would you do it?

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it will not ever affect your other relationship at all.

Do you do it?
I know it's only a hypothetical question, but for me this just isn't possible. My partner might never find out about it, but it would still affect ME, and therefore the relationship. Therefore, no is the answer.
I don't think I'd ever feel right within myself again.
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Re: would you do it?

Just to justify my staying out of the poll:
From the way the answers are expressed I don't think I could vote NO. I really don't believe that if one's life depended on it he or she would hesitate even for a second.
I couldn't vote YES either since it's very "definitely" expressed.
So this leaves me with the third option which imho is the only answer because it includes all possible circumstanses that such a thing might happen.
Bottom line I cannot vote in a poll with a single answer as only option

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Re: would you do it?

With this choice, how can you say no if your life depended on saying yes
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Hmmm Re: would you do it?

The honest answer is I just dont know what I would do.

Am still in the middle of a very messy split with the ex and it hurts like hell. More than anything else so far in my life.

Lots of thoughts have gone through my mind about her seeing someone else during our time and I think I know what it would feel like if she had cheated.

Having said that, I truly believed that we were going to be together forever and not once did I see this end coming.

The truth is, none of us know what the future holds, nor how we would act in certain future circumstances. The past month or so has opened my mind to see that life is always unexpected and sometimes very hurtful.

If I cheated it would be wrong to others, but maybe right to me at the time. Maybe thats what my ex thought. Who knows.

With all this in mind, I choose the 3rd option 'other' because I really don't know.

Does this all make sense or am I having a 'moment' here???

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Re: would you do it?

It makes perfect sense, and even if you are having a moment, you're entitled to it. Sadly, it seems like AO relationships have been undergoing a tough time lately. You know that sympathetic ears (well eyes really ) are only a post away.
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Am still in the middle of a very messy split with the ex and it hurts like hell. More than anything else so far in my life.
What you said does make sense as already said by Tors.

I think I have said this before, but a mate of mine also had a split but his also involved a child. In his case she was cheating on him. I paraphrase what he said ‘I had no idea whatsoever, that is the scariest part’. He kept repeating this to me and it was unnerving hearing it. It’s basically said what you said, you never really know They are on good terms because of the child and I can only commend him on the way he has handled it. It would be another story if it involved me

Anyway, you are bound to have your ups and downs - so ride the waves as they come.

I thought the split was over in that she had left and took what she needed/wanted. If it isn't then this is a big step in moving on. Sort the physical stuff out as soon as possible.

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Re: would you do it?

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Sadly, it seems like AO relationships have been undergoing a tough time lately.
Is it any wonder, we're all spending far too much time doing this!

Anyway, I voted yes, and then found that I am the only one!

Of course it is all hypothetical, I wouldn't even consider it in reality because you would never have any guarantees of other half not finding out and being hurt. If it was just sex that meant nothing, I don't see the problem, but when it comes to the other half being hurt, then no way.

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Re: would you do it?

Do you think that what I've said makes any sense?
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Do you think that what I've said makes any sense?
Sure, but the question is not about another relationship. "You will not fall in love with them and they will not fall in love with you". What sort of relationship is that? Answer - Sex, pure and simple. That's how I see it.

But would I do the same in reality - No.

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