Thanks for all the support guys, much appreciated.
I've been out today looking around and test driving, including some non-Alfas for comparison. Firstly, I went to visit Bella's twin sister. Same plate, colour, spec and similar mileage. Weird to look around her but I suppose I had to get closure. Less than 10 seconds behind the wheel and I knew; she wasn't mine. I know now I can't replace her with another GT. I can also say about the others I drove
BMW 120d M Sport - I feel like I should've been more impressed. Quick enough and responsive, but sterile and no soul
Merc CLC 220 - Not quote an Alfa, but a decent drive. Much better than the BMW but still missing something. This would be your wife, an Alfa would be your mistress
Last drive was an 08 Brera 2.4 JTDM SV 210bhp Limited Edition. If anyone asks why Alfa, they should drive this. Within seconds I got that feeling I got the first time I drove my GT and I knew I'm still Alfisti and always will be. She's overpriced at £9.5k, but in blue with black alloys and red calipers she looks stunning (if a little boy racer) and has less than 45k miles.
So now I know, it has to be an Alfa or it's a compromise. Just need to wait until I get a settlement figure so I know my budget. Now if I could get that Brera for £9k......