Re: engine is off but i can hear a pump noise
All I can say is if you can, try and stick your car up on jacks and have a look, see if you can see where the oil is coming from. That way you can at least try and diagnose where the oil is leaking from.
It might be something simple, I had a slight oil leak not so long ago, it was just a loose clip. Also, check your oil level with the dipstick to see if it is low, this may be a way to diagnose if it is engine oil that is leaking or not.
You may well need to get it towed to a garage, but if it is stuck in first gear does this mean the front wheels will not turn even when the car is off and pushed? Not sure about how the Selespeed clutch-less-ness works, ZF might be better at explaining it than me.