A touch of sarcasm there Springbok, bad day mate !
As Lord Melch said, read the links on how to wash the car properly, that is the key to clear coat preservation. Minimise the swirling (caused by micro scratches) and you will have a shiny car. Swirling causes it to look dull.
Essentially, pre rinse with hose or jet wash at a safe distance, wash car with two bucket method (see link) with micro fibre or lambs wool mit, rinse then dry with a micro fibre towel. Applying wax won't scratch the car unless you are stupid. Scratches/swirls come from washing.