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Do you ever do this?

On those slightly awkward occasions where you meet a work colleague in a work corridor.

I'm sure everyone does the thing where you try not to make eye contact until you're very close, so you can just say hello and walk past without having to walk for ages towards each other pulling weird faces which are intended to mean "I'd say something, but we're still too far away and it'd be impolite to shout. I'll definitely say hello in a moment or two."

But, after the hello and the walk past have happened, do you ever find yourself thinking back to the moment and realising that you're not sure whether you actually made a noise? Did you in fact just whisper "hello"? Maybe you even just mouthed it, made no sound at all. Why on earth did you do that?

And when you do the simultaneous hello thing, but "hello" isn't good enough for the awkward sod coming the other way. No. They have to say "How are you?" What do you do now? Was it a rhetorical question? Just an alternative to "Hello"? Are you supposed to answer? But you've already walked past! You'd have to stop in order to say anything worthwhile, and that'd be even more awkward. You hardly know this person!
Again, all thoughts that go through my head afterwards, when I've already ignored their question. Was I rude? Or was it expected?

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Do you think you might be analysing this just a little too much Bazza?

Making eye contact and smiling (sincerely of course) is all I bother to do unless the other party speaks and requires a response.

I know what you mean about the delay though, and when your eyesight is as bad as mine and you don't see the whites of their eyes until really rather close, that makes it even worse!
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I usually just get my phone out and pretend to make a call.
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Ah, I just usually go for the quick, manly nod with maybe an "Alright?" (which is rhetorical, but could be answered).
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The level of observational 'comedy' in this thread is very high

excellent post Bazza
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And what about when you've already met the person that day? It makes everything ten times worse! You've already said hello! But you can't just ignore them!

I swear, one of these days, maybe when I've had a bit of stress that day, I'm just going to snap under the immense pressure, punch them in the face, and run off screaming.

Back to the original question though - no-one has had the thing where you've said it so quietly (so as not to make a fuss) that you realise afterwards you might have actually failed to vocalise at all?
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Oh God, I've just thought - what about when it happens in the doorway to the lavs? It's humiliation stacked upon humiliation! How can you handle such a situation? I'm only one man!
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Back to the original question though - no-one has had the thing where you've said it so quietly (so as not to make a fuss) that you realise afterwards you might have actually failed to vocalise at all?
Not in work, but I do this on planes (I travel a fair bit with work) a lot.
I think it's a combination of the pressure and the fact that I'm often wearing noise-cancelling headphones that results in a faint squeak. :facepalm:
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Socially inept springs to mind bazza .... socially inept me old mucker

Why are you finding it so awkward to interact with a fellow worker

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Back to the original question though - no-one has had the thing where you've said it so quietly (so as not to make a fuss) that you realise afterwards you might have actually failed to vocalise at all?
Hmm, I guess so. Can't say I worry about it though...too busy being giddy
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Happened several times, same as when you see a neighbour in their car driving off and mouth the word Hello. Did you actually say it ?
I can remember a hilarious moment with a new Finance Director (American) who loved making noise and posing.
We took same lift and he stuck his elbow out to lean on a rail that was there to look as if he owned the place kind of thing. Hitch; the rail was very low, so I ended up talking with a guy who was awkwardly bent over (It was in now way a natural stance). He walked out as if this is what he did every day when the doors opened at his floor...what a ponce
To answer the question: Yes, has happened and I know what you mean. I got into the habit of walking around with a sheet of paper and looking at that in these ciscumstances until the person is there and just glance up and say a polite Hello, or hello again with a smile. No hassle.
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Ah, I just usually go for the quick, manly nod with maybe an "Alright?" (which is rhetorical, but could be answered).
What He said - not that I pass any colleagues these days - I guess I could do the same in a mirror
 
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Socially inept springs to mind bazza .... socially inept me old mucker

Why are you finding it so awkward to interact with a fellow worker

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I have a habit of looking at my watch, even when I'm not wearing one Hate that situation.
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Scares the cr@p out of you when they do the same back eh H

Apart from the woolly ones
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Scares the cr@p out of you when they do the same back eh H

Apart from the woolly ones
Nah, used to be part of the office banter ! There's a lot I miss from working in a large company.
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Oh God, I've just thought - what about when it happens in the doorway to the lavs? It's humiliation stacked upon humiliation! How can you handle such a situation? I'm only one man!

Try waiting until the other party has completely left the cubical/trap/lav, before attempting a pass.
It could be miscontrued that you are trying to enter at the same time as the other party is inside
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I can relate to the predicament James, have been subject to it many times!
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I just interact with my co-worker on the desk

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I just interact with my co-worker on the desk
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