Wedding Costs.

Am I just a miserable old bugger ?

My daughter is getting married again, she lives in Seattle with her fiancée and is getting married in Cyprus where mum, the ex, lives.

Just had email from the witch, sorry, ex, who is organizing everything, saying that the cost is going to be £12K. To me this is madness, 12k blown on a one day pee up. Don't mind shelling out but I would much prefer to have a cheaper wedding and give her the rest to use on more sensible things, pay off loans, towards the mortgage etc. I haven't been able to speak to my daughter yet so don't know if she is aware of what mum seems intent on spending...........

It is her second wedding although to be honest her first was a no cost affair but I thought very cool, on a riverbank in Leavenworth in the Cascade mountains, so this will be the first to cost anything.

Anyone any views, thoughts or comments ?

My wedding in Newquay cost 8K just for the hotel, then there was the dress etc etc....the real cost was i'm sure hidden from me as i paid for the lot.........I'm now divorced

Second time round she should be paying for it herself

Originally Posted by rafe005

My wedding in Newquay cost 8K just for the hotel, then there was the dress etc etc....the real cost was i'm sure hidden from me as i paid for the lot.........I'm now divorced

Getting married aint cheap, getting divorced even worse. All in all my divorce cost me over 6 figures.

Weddings are cheaper than divorces ...


(hate to say it but £12k is reasonably cheap these days ... especially when Daddy is paying!!!)

omg 12k 12k??? just think of the alfa-repairs you could spend that on!!

Originally Posted by Nige005

Getting married aint cheap, getting divorced even worse. All in all my divorce cost me over 6 figures.

Yup same here luckily though i did manage to keep some clothes

I do agree with HM, second time round she should pay herself.

Originally Posted by rafe005

I do agree with HM, second time round she should pay herself.

Same here

What HM said.

I had to pay for my second one meself

So the ex is organising, but expecting you to pay the full figure?
I think I'd tell her where to stick it under the circumstances.

Also: Alfa-female - your avatar seems to be broken

Originally Posted by bazza

Also: Alfa-female - your avatar seems to be broken

Yeah the click through isnt working

Love is grand.
Divorce is 20 grand.

Originally Posted by bazza

So the ex is organising, but expecting you to pay the full figure?
I think I'd tell her where to stick it under the circumstances.

Also: Alfa-female - your avatar seems to be broken

I saw it

Originally Posted by Nige005

My daughter is getting married again, she lives in Seattle with her fiancée and is getting married in Cyprus where mum, the ex, lives.

12K !?!

Forget it. You've paid at least once
already, no? Sorry but what kid
expects money the 2nd(3rd 4th..)
time around?

I'd politely decline.

Naughty boys! (*whispers* Any good H?)

Back to the topic. 2nd time round - no, they are all grown up and have had a crack at it and your wallet once.

In the circumstances that you described of not splashing too much first time you might feel inclined to offer a couple of k towards the costs to help them all out. I certainly wouldn't want to be dictated to by an ex who doesn't even live in a remotely adjacent country!