Originally Posted by Joe1968
The point I am trying to make here is ... if she wants the nice things ... she has to earn them from this point onwards...
till now she has had everything to her on a plate .. but not anymore ...
Agree 100% Joe, been through the same. A very difficult gameplay here because asking or demanding a daughter adjust her expectations is tricky. Push too hard and she'll just go teenage contrarian for years.
And also do bear in mind that she's still forming a personality so it's normal to have to rub off a few rough edges before a decent, rounded personality arrives.
All we did in similar situation was to point out the logic of getting a weekend job and provide a bit of help with jobhunting. Weren't too aggressive about it. Also we gave cash bonuses for GCSE results (mercenary I know, but it worked).
Both daughters have to pay for their own clothes, social life and when it comnes time for that driving lessons and insurance.