I'm fed up tonight .... :(

............ and I really wan't to have a rant ...... !

As a clue ......

Child

Money

and never being satisfied no matter what you do or give .....

[Stu GTV]

I've had the same rant with 9 children..........the last 2 being twins which meant 2 of everything......

I blame my mum and dad......if they could afford it, and sometimes when they when they couldn't, I know I was a spoilt child.........
Not spoilt as in mega rich, just a working class family who sacrificed things for themselves to provide for me and my sister...
I allways feel that it is my place to do the same.........

Well my oldest is a totally different creature, she asks for nothing .. works and is starting Uni in the next few weeks.. The youngest however.. she thinks she is entitled to everything .. put it down to her friends and such .... I have done nothing different with either of mine

[Stu GTV]

One out of two aint bad Joe.......just think yourself lucky the second wasn't twins.......or triplets........
Maybe because your eldest is now providing for herself the youngest thinks you have more to give her......

Kids....who'd have em eh..........

Originally Posted by Stu GTV

One out of two aint bad Joe.......just think yourself lucky the second wasn't twins.......or triplets........
Maybe because your eldest is now providing for herself the youngest thinks you have more to give her......

Kids....who'd have em eh..........

I am greatfull .. believe me ...

Nope ... she has been this way since she was 10 .....

I'm at my wits end with her ... friends have told me to let her earn her own cash and see what its like to earn the money .....

She needs to know how hard money is to earn and how easy it is to spend it ....

After yesterday and today and over 1k lighter in my purse .... I'm inclined to for with this option .. a life lesson needs to be learnt right now here I think ....

If she wants her Dior Make up and designer clothes ect .... she should realise just how she has to work to earn it ....

[Stu GTV]

Originally Posted by Joe1968

If she wants her Dior Make up and designer clothes ect .... she should realise just how she has to work to earn it ....

That's way out of my, and my childrens range.........my apologies for not realising the scale of your problem, and I wish you all the luck in the world to find a solution Joe.......

A justified rant ...........

Originally Posted by Stu GTV

That's way out of my, and my childrens range.........my apologies for not realising the scale of your problem, and I wish you all the luck in the world to find a solution Joe.......

A justified rant ...........

Your not kidding Stu .... please feel my pain ...

Just had a late tea ... Curry ... Its shut her up for once

ps .. solution found .... from now on .. she gets nowt unless she earns it .... as said previously .. a life lesson here

^^
it's the best way

[wayne-dear]

Originally Posted by Joe1968

Your not kidding Stu .... please feel my pain ...

Just had a late tea ... Curry ... Its shut her up for once

ps .. solution found .... from now on .. she gets nowt unless she earns it .... as said previously .. a life lesson here

Jules's solution, "if you want to live like a pig and do not like what is in the fridge MOVE OUT" she has until October, she is 18 next week, does nothing but moan and thinks she has a god given right to have and do what she wants with no consequences, no responsibility whatsoever, it will be so funny when they move and have the baby, welcome to the REAL WORLD...............



(Jules and i will catch them when the fall, well not straight away)

Kids today really do not realize just how good they have it compared to when we were younger .....

[harryf]

Originally Posted by Joe1968

Kids today really do not realize just how good they have it compared to when we were younger .....

That's correct but we should not begrudge them the improvements in health, life and finances which occur each generation. I saw a statistic last week which demonstrated that personal wealth, on average, doubles every generation.

[AlfaDrivingFan]

Originally Posted by harryf

I saw a statistic last week which demonstrated that personal wealth, on average, doubles every generation.

I've yet to see evidence of that in my life

Originally Posted by harryf

That's correct but we should not begrudge them the improvements in health, life and finances which occur each generation. I saw a statistic last week which demonstrated that personal wealth, on average, doubles every generation.

The point I am trying to make here is ... if she wants the nice things ... she has to earn them from this point onwards...
till now she has had everything to her on a plate .. but not anymore ...

[harryf]

Originally Posted by Joe1968

The point I am trying to make here is ... if she wants the nice things ... she has to earn them from this point onwards...
till now she has had everything to her on a plate .. but not anymore ...

Agree 100% Joe, been through the same. A very difficult gameplay here because asking or demanding a daughter adjust her expectations is tricky. Push too hard and she'll just go teenage contrarian for years.

And also do bear in mind that she's still forming a personality so it's normal to have to rub off a few rough edges before a decent, rounded personality arrives.

All we did in similar situation was to point out the logic of getting a weekend job and provide a bit of help with jobhunting. Weren't too aggressive about it. Also we gave cash bonuses for GCSE results (mercenary I know, but it worked).

Both daughters have to pay for their own clothes, social life and when it comnes time for that driving lessons and insurance.