Re: Should my brakes be this crap?
In short 'Yes'!
Can't really fully tell how yours are compared to others of course, but if you want to stop quickly when travelling at speed you need to put MUCH more pressure on the pedal than any other car I've driven. It doesn't feel good, doesn't feel that safe, but I think it's fine as you do eventually get used to it.
As for ABS, as long as the wheels aren't locking up things should be fine, for me ABS should only kick in once – or just before – the wheels start to lock.
Ex '99 6-speed 3.0 V6 GTV, now Z4MC