Sorry Bazza, but I have to disagree with you.
AFAIC Alfachick got the short end of the stick, and I think a big part of it was because she was a girl. We've had people with tacky mods before her and we've had people with bad kit join up afterwards, and they were never treated as harshly as she was. In fact after the episode with her, I seem to recall lots of people being treated with kidd gloves when they started talking about spoilers and other after-market monstrosities.
Admittedly she misjudged her audience and probably asked the wrong question, but she got treated like crap. O.K., so maybe one young girl isn't as tough as a horde of guys who turned into a pack of bullies but do you honestly expect her to be? She was thrilled with her car and was excited to find an online community that shared her automtive interests.
As has been pointed out the women on AO tend to be able to give as good as they get, but why should they need balls twice the size of any guy's just to hang around here? For the most part AO is not a warm, welcoming environment for women. When I first joined, the focus was on Eve and her melons. Yes she could take the joke, but surprise, surprise, lots of women would be put off by that. Andrea also got a bit of unnecessary attention when she first joined. I also recall a guess the Alfaowner thread that got very nasty with one of our female members.
And what has been happening recently? Ruth from Auto Italia joined to ask serious questions about her magazine and she got hit with girlie car put-downs and slapped with lots of sly, nudge-nudge-wink-wink remarks about female automotive journalists. What the hell has a woman's looks got to do with her ability to report on the automotive world? And even if you believe only hot chicks should be covering that beat why does everybody have to throw that crap at Ruth?
I swear the longer I hang around here the less I think about the maturity level of what I thought were a bunch of smart, classy individuals.
[EDIT] I just have to add one more thing. A little ways back, during a discussion about one of the posts of our recently banned member another member made a comment that to the effect of "why can't we just talk like we do with our mates in the bar?" Because you're not hanging out with your mates in a bar. You're in an forum that is open to men and women, gay and straight and ranging in age from grade school ages to senior citizens. Of course if you're a lout in real life and you insulting talk trash to everbody you meet, the I guess you'd feel the need to do so here as well.